Friendship, In a different way!!

Hello everyone. Sorry to take a long break, was busy with my semester and other stuffs. I am happy to share with you all that my blog has been rated 31st rank throught India in Indiblogger forum. Thanks to you all for giving me the confidence to write more and more!!

This time I choose a very simple topic but going to discuss some different things in that.

"FRIENDSHIP" - The most beautiful relationship in a persons life. Everyone in this world have friends for them. It starts from kinder garden to junior grade, High School to College and in our Work place. Now due to the modernization of the world we find friends even through Internet in Social Networking sites. Whether we know the value of Friendship or not some people like Büyükkökten and Aaron Greenspan knew it and now they make hell a lot of money with it. For those of you who are not aware of them they are the Founders of Orkut and Face book. The very famous Social Networking Sites.

Before you start reading what follows I want you to think a friend of yours in your mind.

Our studies started in the Kinder Gardens, we started to learn the outside world from that point and we started to spend most of our Times outside our homes from that age. We started to miss our parents for the first time and came away from them at least for some hours and mingled with a same age group of persons and there comes the bonding of the word Friendship. It is not just a word actually.

So after parents, Friends takes a very important role in a persons life. At every point of time there may be a person, a friend who might have helped in our tough situation. Life without friends is really very worse. But life with friends can also be worse. I don't know or rather I don't believe whether you are going to agree with my point or not but I wanted to tell you the other side of things. Controversy starts from here!!

First talking about the lighter side, What does Friendship gives us - Happiness, Affection, love and many more things. Friendship gives this all to us. It is the first relationship which we get into in our life. When we are in a group we forget all our sorrows and we tend to forget our darker side. We share things which we cant share with our parents and in some cases Friends become more important than our parents. Friendship total is Happiness. We have lots of friends we give them a call and talk with them all night, text them 24x7 wish them for their birthdays, give them a surprise party , outings, hugs, kisses and what more, many more....

So we enjoy these stuffs with our friends. But i have always wondered one thing in people including me. We all know FRIENDSHIP is such a lovely relationship but even in that we have many separations. Everyone cant be our Friends. Friendship itself comes only by selection, we select the one who can adjust with us and we call them Friends and if someone is not adjustable we say that have attitude so its tough to be with them. But even in our Friends we do differentiate them by close friend, best friend, true friend and whatever. Why does this differentiation come and when the hell did it come into us?? Have you ever thought about this?? I think it as a shame.

Of course, we cant blame any individual here because we have grown up like that. Fine let it be you have close friends, best friends, true friends. Are you the same with everyone?. No, we are not. We show many many difference in friends itself. We share some things with one set of friends and one set of this to others. So i suppose none of us are true to the word FRIENDSHIP including me. I don't care of what others thing by this attitude of mine but this is a reality and I think this has to change. I have a strong feeling that there cant be exceptions in this case. I know the fact that we are just humans our attitude cant change so heavenly suddenly.

Going closer into the fact of Friends and Friendship. I mentioned already before that Friendship has so many values to our lives. But I say Friendship changes according to ages and environment. In kinder Garden you will have a friend and that friend wont be there in your school. In Schools we have two levels, in Junior Grade some one will be your friend and in Middle Grade Friends changes. In high school you will have a friend and it goes good until you finish your college considering school and college are in same location but that Friendship also changes with change of Place of Work. I Strongly admit that there are many exceptions. But you also strongly agree that Friendship changed with ages and environment. If you are still the same in your friendship I BLOW MY HEAD DOWN FOR YOU!! but if not....

I guess that Childhood friendship is the best throught what we would have in our lives, because that friendship doesn't have any ego, we don't have any hatred, we love our friends like anything, we don't have any possessiveness feeling towards anyone. But as ages goes through we get these all. In a adolescence period the first problem which strike in friendship is Possessiveness, but this rapid feeling obviously comes between the opposite sex friends. The most famous problem that we all might have come across. We love our friends too much and that we expect them to be with us every time and if not there comes fights, misunderstanding and even separations. We have many times come across situations where two friends got separated due to possessiveness problem between them, you cant disagree this.

Another most important problem is expectations. We tend to make others believe that we don't expect anything from our friends. But that is totally wrong, everyone expects some things or other from friends. From a birthday wish to regular call if they don't full fill our expectations the problem starts inside Friendship. I came to understand from many life examples that friendship is not just loving some one but mostly its the expectations and fulfilling that expectations. If we don't fulfill that expectations there comes separations.

As i mentioned before friendship is just selection among different people out of those who adjust with you. This may not be a very important factor but it is a criteria of selecting a friend. We usually think that Friendship comes by understanding but it also has to satisfy factors like expectations and adjustment to make your friendship a valid one. A Friendship can sustain only by adjusting with that friend. I know its hard to believe but your conscience know whether what I say is right or wrong.

But FRIENDSHIP is not expecting things or fulfilling the expectations or even adjustablity of that person. Considering these factors only we have made separations in our mind as close friends, best friends and true friends. Friendship has to come from heart as a felling towards their friend. Your brain should never decide who your friend is. Tats really bad that majority of us give chance to the brain to decide our friends.

My Intention is not to talk bad about friends or friendship but to tell you the darker sides in a friendship that we even never thought of.

So for those of you who think what friendship is, this tells you what friendship in Reality is.


In the start I told you to think about a friend of yours. In the end how many friends came across your mind reading this post. That is FRIENDSHIP!! ( and that is my success too )


VERY IMPORTANT POINTS FOR MY READERS:

1. I mentioned very important points because this is a very sensitive topic and you can easily get angry on me. I am happy if you get angry by reading this hoping there are many true friends in this world!!

2. My intention is just make you understand the other side of FRIENDSHIP, I don't tel that this side is bad but this side can be avoided.

3. As a well known thing, even I accept that differentiations in friendship is unavoidable and only some can become close to you.

4. In spite of all these problems(which are not even fully recognized even now) FRIENDSHIP is the best relationship. I agree!!

5. I am not bigger person than you, I cant make any big difference in friendship, but I wanted a small change. So this post was born!!